Mom, dad and the kids should all participate in the meeting and keep an open mind as others make a case for specific parameters.
“Discuss with them what they’ll do if they start to feel unsafe,” says Ponton.
Statewide, only 20 percent of kids ages 14 to 17 have had sex, according to the California Health Interview Survey.
Thinking that everyone else is doing it can push kids to become sexually active too young.
The old worries about teen pregnancy, tarnished reputations and broken hearts still apply, but today there are new risks due to rising rates of dating violence and sexually-transmitted infections (STIs).
Brown says parents should be clear about their own views on sex.
“Plus, preteens can be more open to our suggestions.” Some preteens, especially those who go through puberty early, may begin to receive attention from the opposite sex, Brown says.
If they’re not ready, encourage them to say, “I’m not interested.” &pagebreaking& Hold a Family Meeting When you think your child will be dating in a year or so, it’s time for another talk.
“Even the word ‘rules’ tends to lead to a struggle with teenagers,” says Ponton, who has two children and two step-children, now all in their 20s.
“A more successful approach comes from mutually agreed-upon guidelines.” Discuss curfew, group and private dating, whether you want to meet their date first and how they’ll inform you of their welfare and whereabouts while they’re out.